I thought about today how much movies, while I was growing up influenced my life or outlook on life. The lead female actor in “Can’t Buy Me Love” which starred the pretty much unknown at the time Patrick Dempsey, died yesterday. If you haven’t seen it, you must. She was popular, he was a dork. She helped to make him popular, he became a jerk. At the end, they fell in love. Oops! Spoiler:) I was so wrapped up as an elementary/ middle schooler when these movies came out, having a false sense of security. Heck, a false sense of life in general. I was sure that I would meet my Jake Ryan (Sixteen Candles) and he would rescue me and I would suddenly have a wonderful life and no longer be unfulfilled.
So, forward about 30 years and I am a dang good parent, but I do not have a hero taking care of me. I hope I am some kind of hero to my daughter, but if I had it together more financially, then I feel that could be more of a reality. I know that money is not everything, but it is a heck of a lot when you don’t have much! Don’t get me wrong, we are not destitute, but there is not a lot of extra cash flow after food and housing and utilities and other bills.
I don’t really know how to be the heroine in my story. Start a business? Start the nonprofit I have always thought about? Invent a cool new product that people can’t live without? Meet a man to care for us? Or do I just concentrate on being the best mom I can be and keep plugging away until I can find a good job? Sounds like the most logical thing to do, but it is not necessarily the most appealing. I mean being a great mom, I have no problem with. But the continual struggle to make more money or to get a job that matches my skill, education and financial needs is what is not so fun.
P.S. It’s so funny that the movie I mentioned at the beginning of this post was “Can’t Buy Me Love’. See! Money is involved in every aspect of our lives;)